It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that the way romantic relationships are portrayed in the media isn’t representative of how they play out in real life. Rather than being glorious experiences filled with a succession of fairy tale moments, real relationships involve compromise, hard work and, above all else, honesty. That’s not to say that they aren’t also filled with glorious experiences and fairy tale moments — just that the less-than-pleasant aspects of romance aren’t always emphasized out there in world. So it’s no wonder that many of us aren’t sure how to navigate these waters.

But if there’s one thing I’ve learned that helps all of us, it’s that relationships cannot survive without honesty. That doesn’t mean confessing our deep, dark secrets or every last anxiety to all our romantic interests but it does mean saying how we really feel — no matter how fearful or unappealing-sounding it may be — to other people but mostly to ourselves.

In the time I’ve spent advising people about sex and relationships (as the sex, dating and relationship expert on G4’s Attack of the Show for three years and also on The Today Show, The Talk, The CBS Morning Show and various Fox News shows), I’ve discovered that every question I field is, at its core, about honesty. Whether people are asking about how to reveal interest, ways to break up, faking orgasms or anything else, the answer, to me, always comes down to figuring out the truth as well as the most comfortable way express it.

Still, knowing you should be honest and being honest aren’t exactly the same thing. In my over 15 years of sobriety, I’ve developed the ways to do this. And that’s why I created a storytelling show (and subsequent book), True Tales of Lust and Love, which showcased women breaking through their barriers and fears to tell the truth about the painful, educational and sometimes just funny experiences they’d had in romance.

The program that I’ve developed walks young people through the process of discovering how they really feel about themselves and romantic partners, determining what should be shared about those truths and what kept private, and navigating the occasionally rough waters of sex and romance.

To book me at your college, contact Gina Kirkland at Kirkland Productions by phone at 866-769-9037 or by email at [email protected].

See my page on the Kirkland Productions website here.

See the reel for “10 Steps to Healthy Relationships” here.


Addiction may be constantly in the news — and recovery from it documented on a series of television shows — but very little about how to really cope with and get over these issues is really known. I take the information gleaned from articles and books I’ve written about the topic — but primarily from my own experience as an addict who’s been sober over 15 years — and break alcoholism, addiction and recovery into simple and relatable concepts. My talk is for those suffering from full-blown or burgeoning addictions, those in romantic or family relationships with addicts, or anyone who wants to learn how to better cope with a society that’s always gunning for more, more, more. The program is designed to help college students catch their addictions before they truly take hold as well as give general life lessons on how to cope in a society that, in many ways, sets its members up to think addictively.

I’ve long used my writing and television career to help spread awareness about alcoholism and drug addiction. In 2013, I created TheAfterPartyGroup, a company made up of a website and podcast. Though I sold it to a private investor in 2014, I remain the Editor-in-Chief of the site and host of the podcast. I’ve also written reams of articles focused on addiction and recovery and Dr. Drew Pinsky declared my first novel, Party Girl (HarperCollins, 2007) “the most accurate portrayal of the experience of addiction and nuances of recovery I’ve come across.” My second novel, Bought (HarperCollins, 2009) — a fictionalized version of an investigative feature she penned for Details magazine on high-class prostitution in Hollywood — explored how chemical dependency fuels the lifestyles of those who sell their bodies to get what they think they want. My biography on Tom Sizemore, By Some Miracle I Made It Out of There, was released by Simon & Schuster in April, 2013 and is a New York Times bestseller. My other books also grapple with addiction recovery in various ways.

I’ve also discussed addiction on The Today Show, CNN’s Showbiz Tonight, Inside Edition, Dr. Drew, Jane Velez-Mitchell, and a variety of Fox News programs, including Hannity & Colmes, Red Eye, The Live Desk, and The Big Story. I’ve spoken to many audiences about my own experiences with drugs, alcohol and recovery, prompting praise for my “delivery, language, presentation, optimism, transcendence, positive energy, and youthful candor.”

To book me at your college, contact Gina Kirkland at Kirkland Productions by phone at 866-769-9037 or by email at [email protected].

See my page on the Kirkland Productions website here.

See the reel and information page for “Surviving and Thriving in an Addictive Society.”

I’m also a member of the HarperCollins Speakers Bureau.